November 28, 2011
How many people do you know? When we reach midlife the number of people that have touched out lives is really astounding. Have you ever really sat and thought about this? It is a worthwhile task to take time out and think about how your life changed as these people came into your life.
A paper and pen are useful tools for this exercise. Write down all those you keep in contact with and also those who you no longer meet. Think about all the places you have visited in your life, think of all the groups you have been involved in, the places you used to frequent and those you now frequent on a daily basis. Think of all the people your partner knew or knows, the connections made through your kids at the school or after school activities.
Look again at your list and to each persons name add a list of contacts of people they also know. This list may include people you have in common or people you would like to connect with. Take time to do this it is, come back to the list often, add when your memory allows!
Now take time to look at the list again and ask yourself what can this person do for me? What is it that I need in my life today and how can I achieve it by asking this person to help.
Your life has changed, now at midlife it may be the perfect opportunity to reconnect with certain people, just as it maybe the perfect time to disconnect with others around you. Be ‘Sensibly Selfish’ at this point – what is it that you really want?
The final, yet most important question of all is to ask of your now amazing long list… what can I do for this person? Who can I introduce them to? How can I be of service? What bit of information would they like to hear from me?
As the end of the year approaches, taking time out to connect to those who make you who you really are, will bring endless rewards in the New Year. Give it a go and let me know your results.